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Confidence - Are we born with it or can it be nurtured?

  • 25th Nov'22

Confidence - Are we born with it or can it be nurtured? How does self-assurance grow? Is confidence more a result of genetics or environment?


Neither nature nor nurture determines our level of confidence; both factors have an impact on us. Neither factor will prevail. Although our genes may account for up to 50% of our confidence, none of us are destined to lack confidence.


We'll examine how genetics and environment affect confidence development in this blog.


The Role of Genetics in Confidence Development


According to psychological studies, confidence is somewhat inherited. Robert Plomin, a behavioral geneticist, researched identical and fraternal twins and discovered that identical twins shared more answers on both self-assessments of ability and actual ability than did fraternal twins. He discovered that the link between genes and confidence may be as high as 50%, possibly even exceeding the correlation between genes and IQ.


Although genetics may account for up to 50% of confidence, this does not imply that confidence is a fixed feature. Our brain chemistry and our levels of confidence can change as a result of certain character trait-related genes that can turn on and off. Epigenetics is the study of how environmental factors can alter our DNA and genes. For instance, although sharing the same DNA, identical twins frequently have different personalities.


It's interesting to think that gene off-ons might be passable even after just one generation. Scientists don't yet know whether women who practice confidence in themselves can pass it on to their offspring, although it may be conceivable. For instance, several studies discovered that women who were expecting transferred stress chemicals to their unborn children after witnessing the Twin Towers assaults.


The Skill of Self-Confidence


Confidence - Are we born with it or can it be nurtured? 

A self-confidence expert for so many parents and kids, assures that it is purely a talent that must be learned. There is no "magic pill" that you may swallow and, presto, you suddenly awaken filled with inner confidence. However, there are particular ways to think, feel, and exist in the world that propels you forward and aid in the development of the ability (hear me out: I said ability) to fully and completely believe in yourself.


There are different levels of self-confidence as well as different kinds. Returning to your own life for a moment, do you exude the same level of self-assurance as your mother did? or your dad? Or have you developed in new ways that have made you more confident than your parents? I know that I am much more confident than my mother (whom I loved) because I decided to learn the skill of self-confidence, surround myself with others who have genuine confidence, and start to "do the things" that bolster self-confidence like seeing myself succeed. I can only speak from my personal and professional experience.


What Are the Unique Traits Of a Self-Confident Person?


You are not born with the ability to be confident. It's something we create and get better at every day with constant practice, just like the muscles in your body.


Knowing your beliefs and engaging in constructive thought is just a couple of strategies to work on boosting confidence over time.


However, there are occasions when we must act with faith in the present. Here are some of my favorite psychological gimmicks for appearing and feeling instantaneously more assured in front of others:


How can we nurture confidence?


1. Challenge unfavorable presumptions


We frequently assume things about the capabilities we lack without recognizing them.


As an adult, speaking in front of others feels like a dreadful idea since, let's say, you were always shy as a child. Sadly, your supervisor has requested you to participate in a group presentation.


By turning them around, you may combat your self-defeating ideas. It can be as simple as telling yourself each day that you are a great public speaker and that people want to hear your views.


Continue speaking it out loud or in your brain. You'll experience a decrease in anxiety and an increase in readiness.


2. Avoid saying "I think" or "I'm not sure"


Replace weak words and phrases with ones that will help you come off as a more capable and professional person.


Avoid beginning or ending statements with "I guess" or "I'm not sure" when speaking to other people. Use "I believe" instead, which puts you in control of the thought and exudes a sense of calm assurance.


Other expressions like "in my opinion" likewise give off a lack of confidence. Just skip the introductions and get to the point.


3. Consider a time when you felt self-assured


Try a visualization exercise where you play back a former experience where you had the most energy, attention, and success right before you perform something that makes you feel anxious.


Consider the event again. Who or what were you? Who attended? What kind of reaction did you get from other people? When it was over, how did you feel?


Bring that confidence and optimistic attitude back to the present.


4. Stop using social media


Social media makes it very simple to waste time by comparing oneself to others. But keep in mind that not all of the posts or videos you encounter are representative of reality. No one's life is ideal.


Believing in yourself, your own strengths, and where you are in your personal journey can give you confidence. It is tough to accurately recognize your own accomplishments when you are comparing yourself to those who only share the "glamorous" aspects of their lives.


Avoid using social media when you're feeling insecure or when you're ready to take on a difficult task. Instead, take out a journal and list the accomplishments you're happy with.


5. Put on attire that gives you a sense of strength


We all have "that outfit," whether it's a dress, suit, pair of jeans, or accessory, that makes us feel beautiful and strong. When you want a quick confidence boost or when your day is boring, wear these items.


The clothes we wear can affect our cognitive processes, according to studies. They can improve both your performance and how others see you.


Confidence - Are we born with it or can it be nurtured? 

Well, you have all the information now, so what do you think?


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